Guys what is girlfriend material to you? Please read!?

at least that's how it feels. i meet guys that either find me hot and only want or guys that like me, but just as a friend. Why can't I win? Most guys I know think I'm fun to spend time with and miss me when I'm not around, but why not enough to want to DATE me? I think I have a lot to offer, so what's up? I'm 21 and a virgin if that matters. I write (working on a novel), I LIKE to cook, I LOVE kids, I play violin and guitar, sing, snowboard, dance, and am nice/down to earth and always just me. I can be shy, but outgoing when the occasion calls for it. Apparently I have a "hot body" according to some guys. What' the probleM???????